How to Talk to Your Kids About Periods

Talking about periods with your child is a good idea. In recent years, periods have started coming earlier and earlier; some as early as second grade. If your child is prepared for what's coming, it can make the experience much smoother and reduce stress when their period comes! As a parent, it can be hard to know when or how to approach the conversation. Here are our best tips for having impactful, approachable conversations about periods with your kids, to create a welcoming & comfortable space as they grow up.

Start talking about menstruation early

Periods can start as early as 8 or as late as 16, while the average age of a first period is 12. Even before they get their first period, it's important that your child knows what to expect. Instead of giving all the details at once, work it in during casual conversations, and always be honest. Ask them what they know about periods, and see what they know already. Correct any wrong information, and answer any questions they have. Normalizing periods can start at any age. Don't hide when you're buying period products or walk past that aisle in the store. Welcome any questions they have in those instances, and use them as a time to have honest conversations.

Explain what periods are

It's important that your child knows what a period is and what it means. Sharing your own experiences is a great way to create an open and inviting space for questions. Explain what a period is, how long it lasts (many children don't realize that a period is a monthly occurrence, or how much of your life includes having periods). Explain symptoms that they might have, so they don't cause panic if they arrive. Make sure they understand what symptoms are not normal and that it's okay to ask for help if they think something is wrong - like if they are unable to focus at school or do normal activities because of their period.

Never lie about basic facts about periods, even if you're worried that your child is too young. It's never too early to start teaching your kids about their bodies, especially if they have questions. Be mindful of what they are able to understand at their age, and be honest about what really happens during a period.

Use resources

Many parents aren't sure how best to approach the conversation about periods with their kids, and that's okay! There are tons of resources to help initiate the conversation or guide your kids in the right direction if they're not receptive to talking about it with you. Books, videos, even TikTok accounts like Viv's are a more approachable way to open the conversation in a way that feels more natural.

Be prepared

It's never too early to prepare for your child's first period. Stock up on products (comfortable & toxin-free products like Viv Pads & Liners) that they can use for their first period whenever it comes. Encourage them to bring a period kit to school if their first period may be coming soon. Not having access to period products can be one of the main stressors of being a new menstruator. Letting your child know that there are products available for them to use whenever they need them is a great way to normalize periods & show support. 

Create an open & honest environment

The most important thing to focus on is creating a space where your child feels comfortable opening up to you and coming to you with questions as they grow up. Listen to your child and their experiences, worries, and fears. Remember being that age yourself, and how scary everything seemed! You have the opportunity to be a guiding light and a resource they can use. Normalizing periods & respecting their boundaries (especially when it comes to uncomfortable conversations like talking about puberty) builds trust. Periods are a normal part of growing up, and we have the opportunity as parents to break the stigma around them to make them more comfortable for the next generation.